Maryland…

My father always asked me “how come you always pick the hard path?” I said, “because the easy path doesn’t go where I want.”

I tell ya what though, even when I attempt to take the easy path… It doesn’t end up so easy. Moving to Maryland has come with many challenges that I never foresaw. It shouldn’t be THAT hard. I found a job that pays a ton more, I just gotta get there and get paid! YEAH!

No…

So the day we left for Maryland there’s a friggin snow storm in North Carolina. I’m driving a friggin 26-foot Penske truck with a car on a trailer in tow. Friggin Google decided “hey there’s an accident on 95 so we’ll drive the back roads around it.” It’s “faster” Google says. I finally get across the North Carolina line into Virginia, but the snow doesn’t end. These back woods route through Virginia won’t end. I’m on roads that aren’t even two full lanes when there is NO snow! So, at one point I try to get over a little more and let another driver going the other way get by me. My tire went JUST a bit too far over and BAM I’m in the ditch, as the driver I let by keeps gawking and driving. Didn’t even stop to say, “that sucks.” Welcome to backwoods Virginia. In fact, the next day when I was out and decided to run into a Wal-Mart for a bit and then a gas station I said “howdy” to a few people who made eye contact and they just kept walking looking at me… what the fuck? Ok so fuck you too buddy, trying to be nice and everyone is an asshole.

FINALLY…

I get to my destination, but the wife and kids had to stay 2 nights at a hotel and wait out the snow. I was supposed to start work today… at 9AM, but it’s now 4PM and work knows what happened so I’m not coming in today but damn when 40 hours is what I plan on getting the first week missing 8 hours of it sucks. But that’s ok because I get paid weekly…

Weekly…

So, the first paycheck doesn’t come via direct deposit, it comes as a check. It will be mailed Tuesday and be here at the soonest on Wednesday or Thursday. OHHHHHHH wait… no what was meant was they mail it out Friday (AFTER THE Thursday EXOECTED) Ok cool… got it weekly starts in two weeks from starting. I understand there’s some process time. But also, my bank isn’t local so I’m going to change banks.

“No problem you can change your direct deposit info on your own through your paycheck web access. Oh and let me know ASAP and I will make sure payroll got the change and your next (that would be 2nd check) is direct deposited.”

YAY a new account setup and ready to go, got the direct deposit changed called the guy who said he’ll make sure on his end it’s all good and setup and he comes back with “payroll says it may take 3 weeks to process your new direct deposit and we’ll mail you checks until it works.” WTF? Seriously so you mail first check it comes in the mail the second paycheck week, plus direct deposit that week I get two weeks’ pay and I can pay some of these bills I racked up for moving. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooo that’s not how it’s going to work that’s way to easy.

Oh, and I forgot to mention…

Our mailbox is a group mailbox owned by the post office and needs a key. Just bring your lease and ID Card to the Post Office to get the key. NOPE. $40 dollars for them to rekey the damn box and it’s going to take 4-5 weeks for this to happen and until then we can check the post office itself to see if we have any mail.

So now these paychecks coming in the mail went from inconvenient to absurdly annoying. It can’t just be a drop off of mail at our house, nope that’s for amateurs. Getting OUR mail is a part time job where WE must go to THEM and do their job for them until they can get a key?!?!?

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I Know I’m Bitchin’ but…

I also know there’s guy and girls out there like me. Nothing’s easy and everything seems to go wrong. Add onto it the PTSD factor and these challenges can become overwhelming quickly. That breaking point always seems to be looming around the next thing that goes wrong. Where is the straw that broke the camels back? It’s right around the corner, it’s unpredictable, and it can be deadly. So hear me out on this. Yes this shit is harder than it should be. Yes I have a lot of shit that’s not going as planned. But YES I take moments during the day to pick out the things going RIGHT and draw my focus off of the other shit. If you don’t pull your mind off the other shit it will push you over that edge.

I know this.

You can do this!

For all the shit going wrong

  1. We have an awesome house.
  2. I LOVE showing up to my new job
  3. The area is a lot better than everyone’s scare tactics of how bad Maryland is.
  4. The kids love their new school
  5. I finally got to hold up the promise to my wife of letting her pick a place to move I made it. I fucking WIN!

Remember that always no matter how much shit goes wrong… in the end I ALWAYS win! Shit’s hard! I know!

Bring It!

I have been invited back by Keith to have my own show on his Blog Talk Radio! show this Wednesday. I am excited to start this endeavor as I have been quite anti-social lately but feel that this is a fantastic opportunity to discuss PTSD topics live.

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